The problem with goals

In two words: They Change

We tend to be myopic in our views of our future.  We often cannot imagine the opportunities before us.  Therefore we aim for our best guess at the future, and it is almost never right.  Just ask a 4-year-old, or an 8-year-old, or an 18-year-old, or a 30-year-old what they want [...]

Gurus

Been giving a bit of thought and discussion lately to gurus. 

From Webster:

a teacher and especially intellectual guide in matters of fundamental concern
one who is an acknowledged leader or chief proponent 
a person with knowledge or expertise 

I think we tend to believe that people who meet condition (3) are gurus, but forget the all-important [...]

What can I learn?

I often have students — usually experienced ones — who take issue with a point I might make or a methodology I prescribe.  Since I’m in the business of changing behavior, by very definition I am trying to get folks to do things differently.  Some folks apparently don’t like different.

It’s at those moments where the status [...]

Two heads are better than one

I was teaching/coaching a group last week and they were hitting their head against the wall.  We were discussing making things interesting with good openers, and the basic tenor in the class was “I don’t think this topic (I) is (am) very interesting.”  I always disagree with this attitude, but we let it slide.  We [...]

Experts

I’m reading Malcolm Gladwell’s Outliers book. He could write about cow dung and make it interesting. This one caught my eye because he asks what it takes to be really good — no, GREAT — at something. I’m facing that most with my kids. What should I encourage them to do; [...]